Friday, May 21, 2010

A bit of advice

"The world is never constant - it is always in flux."

A common phase, but its true meaning is only comprehensive to those who have walked life's entwining road.

Today marks the close of a turbulent, distraught month of anguish - heavily aggravated by financial issues. The peak of which came earlier within the week - when an external factor (outside my own immediate family) tipped the scales between a $30,000 debt or the possibility of eviction.

To sum a long story short - more than a year ago, my sister and I came to one of life's "T-junctions". On the left side was a drastic and complete severance of my divorced brother-in-law to everything legal belonging to my family. On the right was to leave things the way they are.

We debated and reasoned among ourselves; speculated and even argued. Finally we came to a compromise, removing his name from whatever was "economically viable".

At the time, it seemed like a wise choice as we did not have the resources (time, effort and legal leverage) to completely annihilate his "legal footprints", and there were issues on moral grounds (my sister birthed 3 kids with him), other reasons exist, but are withheld to prevent divergence from the main topic.

"If you're not sure of where you want to go; any road will take you there."

We (My family & I) learned this the hard way - for in our refusal to choose between the 2 paths, we had ultimately wandered down the right fork in the road. We were heading for disaster the day we procrastinated and believed that compromise lead to a different road.

A bit of advice to all those out there who are faced with "T-junctions" in their lives - to the troubled ones who need to choose 1 out of 2 equally bad choices: I offer my personal, unadulterated and sincere advice in 4 steps.

(i) Decide upon what you wish to accomplish, flip a coin if you can't decide - it makes no difference either way (any road will take you there).

(ii) Choose the actions that will help achieve your goals, priority given to effectiveness first, and secondary preference to efficiency. Leave out your personal values and beliefs.

(iii) Once your purposes and actions have been decided upon; anticipate and prepare for the backlash and repercussions that may entail.

(iv) Proceed with fervor, purposefully and with extreme prejudice - taking special care to eradicate roots and accomplish your aims.

Ethics and morality are luxuries I will leave out from future crucial decisions. The 'end' is the ultimate justification to the 'means'.

There is no need to be perfect - the world is in flux.

Let nothing deter you.

Let nothing stop you.

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